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It may come as a surprise to some people who are not asexual that many asexuals are in relationships.

Some asexual people are even in sexual relationships.

Yet dating can come with some difficulties, as asexuality isn’t typically understood.

Some asexual people are sex- and genital-repulsed (terminology among asexuals meaning they do not have sex) and do not want to be sexually intimate with anyone. Their attractions are based on the person and not on sexual attraction.

Casual sex while dating just was not a healthy option for me.

Finding other asexual people or people who know about and understand what asexuality is and means.

In fact, many do form various relationships and are committed to their partner(s).

Alyssa, asexual, 22, Rhode Island: There's a tendency to assume that at a certain point in a relationship, people are going to want sex. In my scenario, I think the biggest difficulty for me was feeling like I could no longer meet my partner's needs. The pressure to conform and the push that everyone feels sexual desire and the media uses it to sell everything from clothes to cars. I have two wonderful partners who may not always understand it, but they try and they respect it.

I am not sex-averse or -repulsed, but I do not want to engage in sexual acts often. My partner does not pressure me or make offhand comments about how he's not "getting any," but with the amount of sex and sexual images that are shoved into my face every day, it's hard for me to not feel like I'm serving him some sort of injustice. Lucian, queer gray ace, 24, New Jersey: I don't date. It makes it hard because I was sexual when the relationships started but not anymore, so it is definitely an adjustment for all of us, not just them.

To engage in sex, it takes a great amount of effort on my part.

I am not sure that is true of all asexuals, but certainly it is for me.

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